We’re all just trying to find our way in this crazy world; doing our best to do what’s right for ourselves and those closest to us, to love and to be loved. But in this fast-paced, hectic and increasingly impersonal world, it’s easy for us to get turned around. Our moral compass can become skewed. Sure, we may have good intentions, but we all know which path they pave. Over time, little quirks in our behavior can drive a wedge between ourselves in others or result in action which we may not even notice, but it can be extremely damaging for ourselves and sour our relationship with those around us and the person who stares back at us in the mirror.
The most worrying part is that we are very rarely aware of damaging behaviors until it’s too late, which is why self-awareness is such a necessary discipline to learn. Without it, you can find yourself becoming your own worst enemy. Here are some worrying signs that you may already have started your descent down that slippery slope.
You can’t help comparing yourself to others
We should all strive to be the best possible version of ourselves. But one thing that we can (and should) never aspire to be is any version of someone else. Comparing yourself to others is the surest path to frustration and self-loathing and even, in some cases, Body Dysmorphic Disorder. By all means strive to stay healthy and in great shape, but comparing yourself to friends, relatives or worse still the airbrushed images of perfection we see on billboards is setting ourselves up for a fall
You tell yourself you can quit your vices any time… But you never do
We all have our vices from too many sweets to smoking, drinking or even recreational drug use. But there’s a universe of difference between indulgence and an addiction, and often we don’t know the difference until it’s already too late. If you tell yourself that you can quit any time you like… But never ever do, you may have more of a problem than you’re prepared to admit. Attending a women’s sober living retreat, an AA/NA meeting or simply challenging yourself to ditch your vices for a month or more could be the best move you ever made… And if you need support from those around you, ask!
Your breakups are never your fault
We all have some skeletons in our closet when it comes to our relationships, but breakups are rarely ever a one-way street. If your breakups are always the other party’s fault, but you still consider yourself blameless it could be that you’re choosing to blind yourself to some less than flattering aspects of your personality.
You’ll get right on it… On Monday!
Finally, there’s never a good reason to wait to turn your fortunes around. There’s no reason why you can’t start your Saturday morning with a trip to the gym or cook a healthy, hearty breakfast for your family on Sunday morning. The problem with deferring yourself improvement until Monday is that by the time Monday rolls around you’ll have found another excuse to postpone your self-improvement once again!
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